The Opposite of Love

The opposite of love is not hate. You have to love something in order to hate something. For instance, if you hate child abusers, you most likely love children. If you hate animal abusers, you most likely love animals. If you hate brussel sprouts, you may very well have a love for, let's just say, key lime pie (one of my personal weaknesses). To hate a person you have to care enough about them to actually hate them. If you don't care about a person, no fiery emotion will be attached to them. If you feel like you hate someone for no particular reason, then it may be time to do a heart check. This often happens when you see something in this person that either reflects something in you that you don't like about yourself, or they are reflecting something you fear becoming.

Which brings me to the true opposite of love, fear. Fear can counteract anything that love can accomplish. It can be created by pain, rejection, or even old thinking patterns. You may have been taught to live fearfully. You may have been taught that the world around you is unsafe. You may have been taught that you are not worthy of all of the good this world has to offer, that you are not good enough, or maybe even just not enough. None of this is true. Not only are we all (yes, each and every one of us) a child of God, but we are a part of God. This means that you have no reason to fear.

Fear can be subtle, or it can be debilitating.


We know most of our bigger phobias such as heights, snakes, confined spaces, spiders, things like that. It's the subtle ones we need to watch out for. They are not always easy to see, but they are blocking us from becoming our best selves. They block us from our highest and best good. They block us from our bliss.

These are the sneaky little bastards that like to get in our way on a daily basis. That fear of abandonment that turns us into a clingy girlfriend or boyfriend, or on the other hand could keep us from allowing anyone to get too close to us. It's that fear of rejection or not being good enough that keeps us from sharing our gifts. It's that fear of failure that makes us into workaholics. The fear that comes with living up to someone else's idea of success that keeps us from doing what we are meant to do, and being who we are meant to be.

More often then not, we see the blocks before re realize the fears. Sometimes, though, the fears have been there so long, we don't know what it is like to be without them. It's all we know. The trick is not to be afraid of facing your fears. They serve the purpose of protecting you, however that is not the kind of protection you need. You have to realize that not everyone is going to do what that ex did to you. Not everyone is going to treat you like that one friend. Is there a chance that history could repeat itself? Possibly. However, you have to be mindful of yourself. You could very well be blocking the good out with bad. I don't normally like to define things as "bad" since everything is meant to help us grow and learn, however, I felt in this case it got the point across more clearly.

Fear is the shackles that bind you, and Love is the key that frees you.

Your fears must be faced with Love. Just as fear counteracts love, love counteracts fear. This is how we can heal, grow and become the best version of ourselves possible.

Ponder this......